19
Jan
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My emotional connection to money, loans, debt and the interplay with relationships has changed so drastically that I feel a certain discomfort with the situation
This whole get-out-of-debt nonsense has really screwed me up, you know that? I mean, really. When was the last time someone handed you $2,000 and you said, “no, thanks”?
Not long ago I mentioned some freelance work coming up. It’s a fun, challenging project, but one for which there has been little time lately.
It is for a dear friend and is not on a strict deadline. Nonetheless, I want to get it done sooner rather than later. I am shooting for the end of February. It should net around $3,000 toward our debt and I look forward to making that payment. …continue reading
7
Jan
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My dislike for the credit industry is matched now only by my apathy for their business methodology
Last night I realized that with a $48k debt snowball, like a hostage situation, Stockholm syndrome eventually sets in.
We have become comfortable with our method, level of focus and debt-reduction. Yes, we have three debts left, but we are making steady progress and have a plan. Mechanically, the system has found a groove: income is earned, payments are made, debt goes down.
In a way, when you have gotten used to living on a budget and spending less than you make, you can buckle down, do the work and forget the “whys” of getting away from credit card companies.
Then they remind you. …continue reading
4
Dec
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There is always tomorrow. Another month. Another budget. Another chance to get it right.
Oh. My. God.
After ten months (TEN MONTHS!) of financial responsibility… no, financial PERFECTION, today I screwed the pooch.
Actually, I screwed the pooch more than a week ago when I ignored our budget and decided things were going even better than I thought they were… and gave away the farm. …continue reading
28
Oct
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How can anyone think that this is good business?
Have you ever watched a person or a business do something self-destructive and just stood there in disbelief shaking your head?
Two letters came this week from Wells Fargo, the holder of our first and third largest debts. One contained the annual new credit card. Yay! A new card to destroy. Got to come up with a creative way to do that.
The second letter was the mind-boggling one. Apparently they have caught on and we aren’t fooling them anymore. …continue reading
4
Jun
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[I]t came with resentment, guilt and the underlying current of fear that results from living life sans safety net
Every time I watch a newly-married couple smoosh cake into each other’s face at their reception I have this uneasy feeling of something being wrong. When The Wife and I married we were giddy, ridiculously happy, and yet civilized about the darned cake eating thing. There was no smooshing.
Sadly, something was still wrong and I think even then I felt an uneasiness. I didn’t know what it was until nine years later. Nine years and more than $10,000 in accumulated overdraft fees. …continue reading
5
Mar
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my Quicken register looks unlike it ever has before. The “balance” column is black. All black. The whole way down
Lego was my childhood toy-of-choice. I didn’t really need many other toys because I could build anything out of those magical little blocks.
And yes, MY LEGO VERSION WAS JUST AS GOOD AS A REAL ONE, THANK YOU.
I didn’t know it at the time but we were …continue reading
